We carry so much pain in our bodies without even realizing it. Sometimes it feels like it comes out of nowhere – a tight chest, a lump in the throat, a heaviness that seems to weigh on your shoulders. Our mind, always busy, races to make sense of it. It spins a story, finds reasons, and points fingers.

“He hurt me.”

“They abandoned me.”

“This always happens to me.”

And just like that, the cycle continues.

The mind is like a skilled lawyer building a case around the pain, keeping it alive, feeding it with narratives and ‘facts.’ It’s not that your stories are wrong — it’s that they keep you looping in survival, stuck in victimhood, trapped in the same energy. 

So you go about your day and inflict pain upon others – not consciously or on purpose, but you can’t help it when this painful energy is circulating inside of you. You keep fueling this fire by feeding into it. 

But here’s the truth: the pain isn’t really in the story. It’s in your body. 

Your Body Holds the Key

When we let ourselves fully feel the energy in the body – without freezing, fawning, or distracting ourselves — we create space for it to move. Shake. Stretch. Walk. Dance. Cry. Breathe.

Movement isn’t just physical; it’s energetic. Pain is like stagnant water—it festers when it sits too long. Your body is begging to release what your mind keeps recycling.

And here’s something even more profound:

Most of these feelings aren’t even ours.

They are inherited echoes – passed down from parents, grandparents, and generations before them. Each ancestor replayed the same cycle: pain arises → blame someone → retell the story → pass it down by inflicting pain upon others.

Until someone – maybe you – decides to feel it instead of fueling it.

Pain Is a Messenger, Not a Villain

The people who trigger us aren’t villains; they are messengers. They remind us of what’s already inside, waiting to be felt and released.

So the next time an old story flares up, try this:

1. Pause before you react.

2. Feel where the pain is in your body.

3. Breathe into it. Move. Shake. Cry if you need to.

4. Let the energy leave without attaching a story or passing it to someone else.

The true strength is feeling without blaming, healing without shaming, and refusing to carry the pain of generations any longer. And most importantly be gentle with yourself and give yourself grace. 

When you stop glorifying your pain and start moving it through your body, the stories lose their grip. What used to break you now passes through you like a wave. What used to feel like a life sentence now becomes liberation.

This Is Real Freedom

Real freedom isn’t found in controlling people, changing circumstances, or rewriting the story to finally “make sense.”

It’s found in the quiet power of feeling what arises, letting the energy move, and no longer being chained to the old loops.

Freedom is when life can trigger you, and you no longer collapse into the past.

Freedom is when the stories no longer dictate your worth, your mood, or your future.

Freedom is when you can meet life fully – without fear, without blame, without passing the pain to anyone else. This is the moment you break the chain of generations and become the author of your own life.

Yours in healing,

Ava