“She is perfect,” they say… Based on what? Who set the standard? Who even decided that perfection was an adjective for beauty?

How two-dimensional it is to believe that a beautiful face and a beautiful body equal perfection. How can you even tell if someone is beautiful – let alone perfect?

The simple answer is this: You can’t.

Each soul is pure at its core. In that sense, everyone is perfect. Yet each person has been given or perhaps chosen a three-dimensional body and a complex personality to experience this life, and to learn a few lessons. That’s really it.

What makes it interesting is how we create our reality. We meet people who mirror aspects of ourselves – parts we love, parts we deny, parts we judge – based entirely on how we feel about who we are.

If you genuinely believe you are beautiful, your will never think you are perfect. You won’t fixate on the external façade of others or meet them through judgment. It simply won’t exist in your awareness.

But if, at your core, you don’t believe you are beautiful, you may spend your life restlessly striving for perfection – chasing standards and trends, endlessly altering your appearance to appear perfect. All the while judging and nit-picking everyone around you against an unattainable standard of beauty.

The same is true with intelligence.

A truly smart person – a genius – never thinks they are a genius, because they have a curious mind who loves to learn. They will never make you feel small. They empower you to grow and become the best version of yourself. But when someone doubts their own intelligence at a core level, they may point out others’ mistakes to appear smarter, while spending their entire life collecting trophies, diplomas and awards to validate themselves.

Abundance works the same way.

If you feel abundant deep down – regardless of the numbers in your bank account – you simply live, you don’t compare or compete, one-up, or look down on those who have less. Instead, you use your strength to uplift, guide, and elevate others in need.

With all that said… no one is perfect. The truth is – we are all PERFECTLY IMPERFECT! You may have one and lack the other… and by lack, I mean have an illusion of lack, because you always have enough for what you came to experience. Choose to remain present and grateful to avoid comparison and judgement. We are all here to learn from one another and we can only do that if we remain open to learning and extend compassion towards one another. 

Imperfection is what makes us human. And when, instead of directing judgment outward, we turn inward – without criticism, but with compassion – we uncover the true origin of our pain. Once we see it clearly, we begin to heal the wound with self-love and compassion, which essentially is the learning.

Others are not the enemy.

They are mirrors – amplifying reflections of our internal world – simply messengers pointing to what within us longs to be healed and loved a little deeper. When we extend compassion toward them, we extend compassion toward ourselves.

The magic happens when two imperfect people – who complement rather than complete one another – meet with compassion. When you feel seen and accepted exactly as you are, healing accelerates.

But this can only happen when you first offer that compassion to yourself. Because when you love yourself with softness and grace, the world around you responds in kind… meeting you with even more love, understanding, and compassion.

Yours in embracing our imperfections,

Ava